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The Simple Question That Will Make You Enjoy the Holidays More

3 Minute Read

The average American checks their phone more than 150 times a day.

Can you believe that? That number seems insanely high, but then again, everywhere I go I see foreheads illuminated by screens.

Our culture’s obsession with technology affects our ability to have any sense of balance in our lives. And all too often, nonstop screen time takes our attention away from the important moments around us. With Thanksgiving right around the corner, our mobile devices will undoubtedly threaten to steal precious time we could be giving to our families.

If we don’t figure out how to put our phones down, we are going to know everything about everyone else’s lives but totally miss out on the amazing people and experiences right in front of us.

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I struggle with this daily, just like you. So recently, I tried something that’s actually helped with my habit of checking my phone repeatedly. It’s nothing complicated or difficult.

It’s just a simple question. It helps me to not only put things into perspective, but also to put down my phone when I am with family, friends or coworkers.

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I ask myself this: Is it more important that I know what the outside world is doing right now, or is it more important that I experience what I am doing right now?

The question almost always answers itself.

This works when you’re mindlessly scrolling Twitter while waiting for food with your spouse at a restaurant or when you’re perusing Facebook in the grocery store line while your child is trying to get your attention. Even if you’re just enduring something mundane, when you are with family and friends, they matter more.

"Holiday memories aren’t about getting “likes,” they’re about sharing love." @ChristyBWright

One of the most tempting and easily justified times to be on my phone is when I’m taking a picture or posting something online myself. Posting photos and updating statuses isn’t a bad thing, but sometimes I find myself missing everyday moments because I’m so busy trying to document them.

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So instead of posting photos of our perfectly decorated holiday tables or beautifully arranged hors d’oeuvres, let’s give our attention to the real-life people and moments that are truly important to us. Because holiday memories aren’t about getting “likes,” they’re about sharing love.

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Christy Wright is a Certified Business Coach and Ramsey Personality with a passion for equipping women with the knowledge and steps they need to successfully run and grow a side business. Since joining Ramsey Solutions in 2009, she has spoken to thousands across the country at women’s conferences, national business conferences and Fortune 500 companies. You can follow Christy on Twitter at @ChristyBWright and online at or

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