With the rising cost of weddings—Americans shell out more than $31,000 on average—you may find yourself saying yes but thinking, Oh no! If so, that’s a good sign. Even if you love your sweetheart more than anyone, you don’t want to spend the rest of your life together paying for the proof.
You need to plan a wedding on a budget and we're here to help!
Take a few days to dream with your future spouse and share the exciting news with family and friends. Then, tackle the three steps below to set the foundation for your big day.
1. Talk about the money, honey.
It’s vital that you know who’s paying for what before you sign any dotted lines. This may sound like common sense, but as times have changed, so have wedding etiquette expectations. Are your parents footing the entire bill? Will each of your parents give you a set amount of money to spend? Are the two of you paying for everything on your own?
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These questions must be asked as soon as possible. Approach the conversation with a gentle spirit and be ready for whatever answer is given. After all, if you’re mature enough to get married, you realize that a big, fancy wedding isn’t everything. Work with your parents, in-laws and fiancé to decide on an actual dollar amount for the wedding, then commit to sticking to it.
2. Be prepared for the inevitable mini-crisis.
Once you’ve agreed on a number, immediately set aside a portion for last-minute emergencies. We know, the life of your wedding will flash before your eyes the second you reduce the budget by any sizeable amount. Fortunately, this brief moment of anxiety is worth it.
While weddings are beautiful and romantic, they can also be stressful and unpredictable—the reality show Bridezillas taught us that. Rain at an outdoor wedding, flowers dead on arrival or a vendor cancellation all require quick thinking at a time when your mind is elsewhere. Budgeting money for emergencies helps you avoid guilt and credit card debt. And leftover money means happy parents, happy honeymooning, happy housewarming or happy savings!
3. Establish the four walls of your wedding.
When writing a budget, you must secure the walls—or necessities—of your financial house. Your wedding is no different. Talk with your fiancé to determine the top priorities of your big day. Ask married family and friends what mattered most to them as well as what ended up not being a big deal. It’s good to have perspective when you plan.
If your four walls are food, location, guests and the photographer, budget accordingly. Then, you can be flexible and creative with everything else. You can do it yourself, buy used, or practice the art of substitutes—a button bouquet, a Spotify playlist, or maybe even a short and sweet ceremony where everyone stands. This could be a great time to jump on the Pinterest bandwagon!
As crazy as it sounds, your wedding will be over in the blink of an eye. One minute you’re getting ready with your bridesmaids, and the next minute you’re driving away with your new husband! There’s no reason for debt to follow you home.
A budget gives you the control you need to keep away the stress. Sign up with EveryDollar, our free budget app that can help you stay on track with your plan whether you’re at home or on the go.