Tithing Without Telling
Christine says her husband is not a Christian, but she is. She's working part-time now and would like to tithe on her income. Is it okay to do so without telling her husband?
QUESTION: Christine on Facebook says her husband is not a Christian, but she is. Her husband budgeted a small amount to give to the church. She’s working part-time now and would like to tithe on her income. Is it okay to do so without telling her husband?
ANSWER: No, it’s not. We’re not going to honor God by giving of your first fruits and then dishonor God by lying to your husband. Does that not sound weird to you? Because it sounds weird to me!
Not tithing is not a sin. God doesn’t love you more when you tithe, and it’s not a salvation issue. He asks us to tithe because He wants to turn us into givers, not liars. Sit down with your husband and explain that this is part of your faith. You respect the fact that he is not part of this faith and you are not asking him to tithe out of his income, but this is the income that you are creating.
He needs to respect the fact that this part is your income and you intend to tithe out of it. I don’t think that’s unreasonable at all and if he can’t deal with that, then you’ve got marriage issues. But you don’t deceive someone because you don’t agree with them.