Can A Guy Get Some Help?

Mitch is on Baby Step 7 and discovered a young man who was put out on the street at 18. Mitch feels called to help him. Dave reminds Mitch of the order of priority when assisting someone outside of the family.

QUESTION: Mitch in Kentucky is on Baby Step 7 and just discovered a young man who was put out on the street when he turned 18. He lives on food stamps and $10 a week, and Mitch feels called to help him. Dave reminds Mitch of the order of priority when it comes to assisting someone outside of the family.

ANSWER: In order to put him under your roof, your first responsibility is to your kids, so you make sure they are safe. You have to know everything about this guy to put him under your roof. If you want to do that, then that’s just fine. Helping him with food, transportation and clothing, and get him off food stamps and off the street is a huge help to him.

The truth is it won’t cost you that much to do something like this. Assuming you check him out with some teachers and his coach and you find out what he’s involved in, then lay out some really clear guidelines and rules. He needs to sign that agreement, also. No drugs or alcohol, he’s in church on Sunday when he’s in your house, you set a curfew for him and he respects the people who are in the home. It’s stuff that most people assume is normal, but to some it’s not normal.

Go ahead and communicate ground rules and basic stuff. Also, find someone in the area who works with youth and can give you some advice on coaching this guy, but this sounds like a very charitable and cool thing to do. But do it with some wisdom.