Spousal Support Is Key

Sonya wants to know what three character qualities Sharon possesses that Dave appreciates the most so that Sonya can better support her husband.

QUESTION: Sonya from Oklahoma wants to know what three character qualities Sharon possesses that Dave appreciates the most so that Sonya can better support her husband. Dave gives Sonya his take.

ANSWER: You got the first one just by asking the question. By having that spirit about you—bothering to think that it is a huge role. And the interesting thing is that there’s statistical evidence to back how important your question is. Tom Stanley--who did the book The Millionaire Next Door--did a second book called The Millionaire Mind where he studied men and women who had net worths of $10 million or more and were making $750,000 a year or more. He studied these people, and the number-one correlating character quality was integrity, but number three was a supportive and strong spouse that they trusted as a confidante.

Just asking the question probably clears one of them—the three character qualities. Sharon is anti-drama. She lets the air out of drama; she doesn’t add to the drama. She is a help rather than a hindrance—not a princess. She is supportive. She also makes sure that I don’t have to worry about the things that are going on at home. She brings stability to the household situation.

I see so many business situations where they’re torn down by the spouse. They had the energy, they had the business acumen, they were going, but they had to spend so much time with this high-maintenance spouse.