Positive, And Staying That Way

Virgil is tired of all the media negativity, and wonders how he can do even better in his thriving small business.

QUESTION: Virgil is a small business owner who is doing well. However, he’s getting beaten up by the doom-and-gloom news that is out there, and wants to know about books to read to stay motivated, as well as putting together a mentoring group. Dave thinks this is a great series of questions.

ANSWER: Books by Zig Ziglar are always good to read. There is a myriad of positive thinking books, and you just have to be sure that you’re ingesting enough of that to offset the garbage out there. It is a mindset out there. You can’t sit and watch the news channels because it’s all negative.

As far as your personal life goes, you just have to watch who you’re running around with. If you are hanging out with clients, you will probably hear more whining than you have in the past few years. But it also matters who you eat dinner with. If you come home from negativity and you and your wife hang out with negative people, it can crush you.

About 10 years ago, I went through a men’s Bible study for guys who wanted to be leaders. I realized the importance of meeting with a quality group of good guys once a week. I formed a group with a couple of guys called the Eagles group. We’ve had that group of 12 guys for several years now. I haven’t put any turkeys in that group; this is not a group where I’m ministering to someone. These are serious players, and I needed some people like that to bust me from time to time. Unless someone is a pretty serious player, they’re not going to be busting me, because I won’t respect them enough to do that. It took a year and a half to get that group stabilized and moving in the right direction, because some guys didn’t stick. You want to make sure that you’re bringing on players. Bring on eagles because you don’t want to fly with turkeys.

Don’t watch the news. It’s an emotional exercise to stay positive in the middle of all this. Sticking your lip out will not get you where you want to go.