Planning For A Future
Beth says she and her husband are both spenders. How do they learn to give up something now in order to do better in the future?
QUESTION: Beth says she and her husband are both spenders. How do they learn to give up something now in order to do better in the future? Dave advises Beth to set some goals to be the result of going through this kind of pain.
ANSWER: It’s hard. The only way I’ve ever been able to achieve anything like that is I’ve got to want something that’s out there in the future bad enough to give up something in the present. I have to want to live like no one else later so that today I’ll live like no one else. The bumper sticker that says, “Nothing tastes as good as it feels to be thin”—I’ve got to agree with that. I don’t always, but I’ve got to agree with it if I want to be thin. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, the Bible says, but it yields a harvest of righteousness. I’ve got to see something in the future that is the result of me going through some kind of pain even if it’s just the pain of changing how I do things that gives me a result. If you inconvenience yourself or bring pain into your life and there’s not a positive result that you’re aiming at, that would just make you psychologically weird. Why would you hurt yourself for fun? They’ve got terms for that. That’s weird. You would only give yourself discipline to win in the long term. One definition of maturity is learning to delay pleasure. Ouch.