Mom is a Mooch
Renée started sharing money with her parents in high school when they left their jobs to go into ministry. They are still asking to borrow money from Renée. How does she stop this pattern?
QUESTION: Renée in Atlanta started sharing money with her parents in high school when they left their six-figure jobs to go into ministry. They are still asking to borrow money from Renée. She’s now feeling bitterness about it. How does she stop this pattern? Dave thinks Renée’s mom is a travel agent for guilt trips.
ANSWER: You giving your parents money or loaning your parents money has caused your relationship with them to be strained, and you have lost respect for them in the process. Your mom is a travel agent for guilt trips. And it’s for the Lord after all. That’s the implication, isn’t it?
Paul said in my Bible, "Those that don’t work, don’t let them eat." That’s what he said in my Bible. He’s also the guy who made tents while he did ministry. He had a job. I remember that. Do you remember that? That’s not being mean.
I think you’ve had an unhealthy relationship with your parents for years. It’s going to be difficult for you to unravel that and it turn out well. I hope you can sit down with a pastor and mediate you no longer giving or lending them money ever again. You should be through with that starting right now. Get a book called Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud. Then, after you read that, you won’t feel as crazy as your mother wants you to feel.