Dee has a sister who’s been unemployed for the last year and a half. Their parents want to guarantee her sister a room rental. Dave says her sister has control of everyone right now.
QUESTION: Dee in Portland has an older sister who’s been unemployed for the last year and a half. She hasn’t looked for work, and Dee is disgusted. Her parents want to guarantee her sister a room rental. Dave says her sister’s whole future is on her, and she has control of everyone right now. Dee’s family needs to love her sister enough to let her be broken.
ANSWER: Your parents aren’t helping her. She needs a job and a future. It’s sad for a parent to watch your child harm themselves because of their own stupidity, but stupidity and laziness aren’t illegal. She’s being both.
There is not a great answer to this story; it all rests on her. She has this entire productive family all in a knot over her lack of productivity. She is in control of everybody right now. Just give her the address of the union mission and let her go stay there.
Right now she’s arrogant. At the core of a lot of laziness is arrogance. It’s pride, and pride comes right before the fall. When she’s broken, then she’ll be coachable. We need to love her enough to let her be broken. It’s sad and I wish she didn’t have to go through that, but she has a choice to stop her behavior at any moment. If she would change her attitude and be humble and trainable, then she can build from there. That’s what happened to you.
Help is one attitude change away.