How Do I Surprise My Spouse With Gifts?

A listener asks how you can get a surprise gift for your spouse when you both see the checkbook and know where the money goes.

QUESTION: A listener asks how you can get a surprise gift for your spouse when you both see the checkbook and know where the money goes.

ANSWER: You have gift-giving categories that each of you have control of—“his” and “her” gift categories. She knows how much is going into the gift category, but she won’t know anything else. The idea that you can sneak up on her with a $10,000 purchase when you are working together is not real.