Getting Back on Track
Gina has a 21-year-old daughter. She got off to a great start, but she recently dropped out of college and stopped doing a budget. How can Gina get her back on the right path?
QUESTION: Gina in Clarksville has a 21-year-old daughter. She got off to a great start, but she recently dropped out of college and stopped doing a budget. How can Gina get her back on the right path?
ANSWER: Being behind on your mortgage payment or running short of money doesn’t prevent someone from listening to you. If you don’t know why she’s not listening, that’s what you need to figure out. That tells you what you need to change about talking to her. Is she hard-headed? Is she a princess? Is she spoiled rotten? Is she arrogant? Is she rebellious? Is she frozen because she’s paralyzed and scared and doesn’t know what to do?
It sounds like she’s 21, and she’s on her own. To the extent she listens to you and takes your advice, she gets your money. Otherwise she just gets your prayers and your love. She either goes by what you say, or she doesn’t get a freaking dime. But figure out why this kid isn’t listening to you. I think you know more than you’re talking about here. You need to think about why this kid tunes you out. What’s going on there? What’s the spiritual breakdown?