It's Going To Be A Zoo!

Jennifer and her husband are considering moving in with some friends. Dave doesn’t see anything wrong with it but thinks it’s going to be stressful.

QUESTION: Jennifer in San Antonio and her husband are considering moving in with some friends who are also Dave Ramsey fans. It would be for about four months while they prepare to move for Jennifer’s promotion. Their house sold quickly, and now they’re homeless. Dave doesn’t see anything wrong with it but thinks it’s going to be stressful.

ANSWER: This is going to be a zoo, people. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. I think it’s going to be stressful. You can afford a place.

There are two answers. One is what would Dave and Sharon Ramsey do? I couldn’t do it, so I’d go rent something. But that’s just me being transparent; that’s not the answer to your question. You can all sit down and look at this as an adventure and you all think you’re going to have fun and the kids all like each other and that kind of stuff, but I think you’re going to have some sandpaper moments in there. I think you’re going to rub up against each other in some wrong places. That’s a lot of people, a lot of dynamics, and a lot of possible triangulations there. For me, it’s not worth $4,000 given that you make $80,000.

Maybe you guys are great friends and you’re just looking at it as a long campout or something. You’d have to have some really clear communication and some expectations on the front end—privacy, interaction between kids, interaction between them and your kids and you and their kids because nothing is quite as mean as other people’s kids.

There’s nothing wrong with it, and certainly $4,000 is $4,000 when you can put it in your pocket. It’s worth thinking about. Maybe you guys spend some more time in prayer about it and really kind of talk openly about the possible downsides with your buddies who are being very generous. Is it really worth $4,000 to put this friendship—potentially—in jeopardy? You’re going to have some strains. Your ability to cope with conflict and communicate clearly in these situations—all four of you adults—that’s the only way you come out of this whole. If you can get past those warnings and you still think this sounds like fun, then there’s nothing wrong with it.