Make Her Vote Mean Something
Thomas asks what the number-one thing is that he can do to have a healthy financial relationship with his wife. Dave tells him he needs to let her vote count.
QUESTION: Thomas on Twitter asks what the number-one thing is that he can do to have a healthy financial relationship with his wife. Dave tells him he needs to let her vote count.
ANSWER: Let her vote count in such a way that her advice is honored, heeded, considered and—when proper—used. The two of you need to sit down together, have a written plan, be on the same page, and her vote counts. One of the ways you serve in leadership in your household is to draw your spouse into the conversation, take her advice, and go with it. Is she always right? No. Is she God in a woman's body? No. Do some women think they are? Yes. That's usually not the problem. Usually, you're not dealing with a spoiled brat princess. Usually, you're just dealing with someone who has a different opinion about something than you do, and learning to listen to that is part of marriage. It changed my marriage when my wife's vote started counting and when I started honoring the input she had on our financial decisions. We do not make major financial decisions unless we both feel good about them.