Dave's Thoughts On Prenuptial Agreements
Jeremy says that his fiancée comes from a wealthy family, and her father is suggesting a prenuptial agreement. What does Dave say? Dave thinks they value their money more than their family.
QUESTION: Jeremy on Facebook says that his fiancée comes from a wealthy family, and her father is suggesting a prenuptial agreement. Jeremy is confused about this. What does Dave say? Dave thinks they value their money more than their family.
ANSWER: This family values their money more than their relationship with you. If your bride-to-be cares more about money than you, then you should not marry her. My daughter just got married and I never even thought of suggesting a prenuptial agreement to her. If I die and leave them money and they get a divorce, they split it. That’s how that works, so stay married. I don’t suggest a prenuptial agreement because her dad has money.
There is a bad spirit over prenups. It’s planning your divorce in advance. What you put your eyes on is what you end up getting.
There is one exception to this rule. If your fiancée is an heiress and was wealthy already, I would change my answer. If I die and my wife remarries, I have told her to get a prenuptial agreement. When there is extreme wealth, more than a couple million dollars, weirdness is attracted to that. When I’m dealing with a professional athlete making millions of dollars a year, I recommend a prenuptial agreement.
In your case, I think it’s a breakdown in family and this family has problems. This is a really good thing for you guys to address in your marriage counseling. I would not marry her if she requires the prenup. She needs to choose you over the money. Tell them to keep all the money, but no prenup. You don’t want that bad spirit in your relationships.