Communication Is the Key to Marriage

Drake is getting married to a woman who paid for medical school all on her own. Her mom gifted her a car worth about $60,000. Drake wants to sell it to get out of debt more quickly. Should he push the issue?

QUESTION: Drake in Houston is getting married to a woman who paid for medical school all on her own. Her mom gifted her a car worth about $60,000. Drake wants to sell it to get out of debt more quickly. Should he push the issue or swallow this pill?

ANSWER: I guess it depends on how you want to live your life. I think you’ve got a bigger issue than a Range Rover. You’re calling me on the day of the rehearsal dinner with this question. You can’t do anything about it today. Go get married first.

I don’t think you guys have done a good job of becoming prepared to be married. You’re going to have some catching up to do in that regard. Your pre-marriage counseling sucked. Your wife ended up with a Range Rover that you didn’t know about, and your mother-in-law is interfering in your life. You guys had no communication about this, no discussion about this. This all happened outside of you, and yet you are betrothed. You are committed to this marriage, and you didn’t get consulted about this. Your pre-marriage counseling sucked. Your mother-in-law has more input into your life than you do. That’s a bad process.

It was discourteous for a surprise to be of that size and you two planning a marriage. I would not have given my daughter a car that size without talking to my soon-to-be son-in-law. Not a chance I would do that to him. I’ve got two daughters who have been married in the last three years. Not a chance.

You guys have got some work to do on communication and being on the same page. Based on that, you and your wife—not her mother—figure out what you’re going to do with your life. Me? I’m selling that car.