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Tasha and her husband are considering lowering their income by about $5,000 in order to put their son on the state's health insurance. What does Dave think about this?

QUESTION: Tasha in Pensacola and her husband are considering lowering their income by about $5,000 in order to put their son on the state's health insurance. What does Dave think about this? Dave doesn't think they're evil for doing it, but his personal solution would be to figure out a way to make more income.

ANSWER: I wouldn't call you evil for doing that. I don't like anything about it except that the kid is being taken care of. My mind just does not work that way. I'm not saying I have a perfect answer for you, but it would occur to me instead to just go make more money and take care of the kid rather than try to figure out some way to dumb my life down so that the state takes care of me.

I'm with you on making sure your child is cared for, and I'm not going to be mad at you if you do that. But my mind first says, "Let's find a whole bunch of other ways to accomplish the same goal. This is not the only way this child gets cared for." Maybe the health insurance options at your disposal haven't been investigated enough. Maybe your husband looks at different careers where he does get a health insurance option that does cover these issues. Maybe he picks up a part-time job and/or you do. The idea that somehow the state is my answer is never a place that I'm comfortable going. I'm always going to find a way to pull this off, and I really think there is another way to pull it off. I just don't have a better suggestion, so telling you not to do it is just griping. That's not helpful.

I'm not going to tell you not to do it because I don't have a better suggestion. I don't think you're evil. Any mom wanting to take care of her kid is what's called noble. You use whatever's at your disposal. This isn't a matter of some kind of false pride or something. It's just a bad idea to say to yourself anytime in your life, "Hey, I'm going to make less money so I can count on the government to take care of _______." These so-called government help programs end up becoming a disincentive to live our lives with excellence. The theological side of this is what burns me, and yet I don't have a practical application to say, "This is what to do."

If I'm you, I'm looking at other ways we can accomplish this same goal and this being the absolute worst way. I'm really uncomfortable telling you welfare is the best way to go.

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