A Widow Finding Herself Again

Joanne was widowed a year ago. She doesn't really know what she wants to do when she grows up but is considering the EntreLeadership course. Dave recommends going to a Dale Carnegie course first.

QUESTION: Joanne in Indiana was widowed a year ago, and she homeschools her three kids. She figures she has about two years to reinvent herself after being a stay-at-home mom. She doesn’t really know what she wants to do when she grows up but is considering the EntreLeadership course. Dave recommends going to a Dale Carnegie course first.

ANSWER: Whatever you start, you’ve got an eight-year game plan—with the 10-year-old being the youngest—before you are finished homeschooling. And then we’ve got the learning issue to contend with, too. You need to get some income coming in and have a game plan.

I would not go to the one-week EntreLeadership. It’s expensive—it’s $6,000—until you kind of know better what you’re going to do. For me, it’s like reading the Bible. You read it one year and certain sections speak to you. Then you read it five years later with a different level of maturity and a different set of eyes, and a whole different perspective opens up. Not to put EntreLeadership on the same standard as the Bible—I’m saying that the class might mean different things to you when you’re very focused on what you are going to deliver to the marketplace. I would not spend that money right now.

I’ll tell you what I would do. I’d go to Dale Carnegie. It’s about $1,000 or $1,500 for 13 weeks. You go one night a week. It teaches people skills, and it’ll help you with your marketplace confidence because you probably are more poised and articulate and confident and competent than you think you are. I want you to look in your mirror and see a professional as well as see a great mom. I might do that as a part of the finding yourself. I have no idea what it’s going to mean to you, but it’s a great polishing course, if you will. We spend a lot of money on it here. I send a lot of our folks through it.

Something like Dale Carnegie where there’s less money spent—a little less intrusive on your life for now—and then get some of Dan Miller’s materials at 48days.com. Start to search out that path of discovering who you are and how your skills and talents can be manifested in the marketplace. I want your career to flow out of your passions and out of your creativity.

Let’s find out what you can do so you can walk before you run and you can crawl before you walk. Let’s develop what you want to be when you grow up, so to speak. You’ve done a really good job of not making a lot of these decisions while you spent a year healing. The good news is you’ve got plenty of time. If you put yourself in a position to figure out what specialized technical training you need to accomplish your dream once you identify your dream, then if a business application is in place and you want to do EntreLeadership, it might be good. It might even be good if you tried for a part-time thing like you said—working from home and getting something started before you come to EntreLeadership. I just wouldn’t want you to spend that kind of money today. I think you need to get more definition before you do that.