Too Much For Date Night

Ashley says her husband wants to spend $100 a month for date night. Ashley thinks it's unreasonable and doesn't want to spend the money. Dave agrees that she may be right in this situation.

QUESTION: Ashley in Spokane says her husband wants to spend $100 a month for date night. Ashley thinks it’s unreasonable and doesn’t want to spend the money. Dave agrees that she may be right in this situation.

ANSWER: Yes, $100 is too much. I agree with you. If you told me you made $150,000 a year and you had $14,000 in debt, $100 would probably be okay. But you guys are just now learning to stop the spending. You’ve kind of said, “I’m done,” and he’s sort of said, “I’m done.”

I think you back this down to about $40 and you guys go get a reasonable dinner like you said—Olive Garden or Friday’s level or whatever it is and cover the babysitter and that’s a date night for now. Occasionally, you could do one that costs hardly anything, that’s a trip to the park or something. Sharon and I did a lot of stuff when we were broke that didn’t cost anything. You guys don’t make a ton of money, and you’ve got a pretty good pile of debt there based on your income.

I think some spending, yes, but I think you’re right. Out of $3,200, to spend $100 a month on dates sounds like that’s his outlet then. It doesn’t sound like he’s trying to accomplish a date. It sounds like he’s trying to go buy some stuff. You win.